But when doubt is gnawing at you because surely your child is a bit old for diapers (such a big boy/girl, people keep saying), or they’re starting preschool soon, and you don’t know if the teachers will be willing to change diapers there, then some nerves on your part are totally understandable.
But that is exactly the time you should ease up the pressure. Take two steps back. And you might find your child comes forward to meet you sooner than you expect.
Forget for a minute about what all a child this age “should” know how to do. Leave the diaper on, or off, whatever your child prefers. Take a break, both of you just relax and enjoy yourselves, and forget about potty training for a few days. Completely.
Take a nice, restful “potty training vacation.” No talk about bodily functions or the bathroom. Just your favorite games and foods. :) Get some distance from the long struggle. And see what happens.
Plenty of parents have found, when they stop trying and give up the fight on potty training, a miracle suddenly drops in their lap...