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New“I love you, honey... But I don't like you very much right now!”

The painful confession of a mama who thought all of this would be easier somehow

There I stood, in my daughter’s room, watching her sleep (at last!). My beautiful little angel. It was a scene right out of a fairy tale of perfect happiness... And yet I didn’t feel perfectly happy. This moment of peace was preceded by the usual drama.

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New My child is a joy to raise. Why? I tell him the truth

"Look for ways to work with your children, not what will work on them,” says Unparenting. It took me a while to decode what it actually means. Just recently, it finally clicked, and everything at home changed.

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New Why are you telling us for the hundredth time, mom?

The miraculous power of silence

A tiny, windowless room.
No natural light. No fresh air. No wall decorations.
A room where you are completely, absolutely alone.
Sound like the set-up for a Scandinavian noir novel?

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I changed two things. Suddenly, the boys’ arguments dropped to a minimum

How to make sure your kids don’t “eat each other alive,” so you can stop worrying

Do you still remember the excitement you felt when you were expecting your second baby? Maybe you were thinking something like: “I’m so happy our son won’t grow up to be the only child. They will play together and learn they are not the center of the universe.”

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“Not the toothbrush again, Mom!”

Why kids don’t want to brush their teeth and how to change that

 You know the drill. He eats the toothpaste, attempts to clean the toilet seat with the toothbrush, and then throws it under the tub. Because really. Oral hygiene? Not his thing.

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How to help children curb their sweet tooth (without secretly raiding the candy bowl)

It can be done. Here are 4 steps to finding a solution where the children aren’t constantly begging for snacks and the parents can relax

Do your children have an incorrigible sweet tooth? Would they have chocolate for lunch and gummy bears for dinner every day if you let them? Then maybe you know what it’s like. Every visit to the grocery store involves a tug-of-war over candy in the check-out line: “Mooooom! Just one bag of Skittles pleeeeease!” You frown and tense up...

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“A happy mom is worth a thousand lollipops!”

Why you should get past the "selfish parent" myth and start thinking about yourself

Just when I thought nothing could interfere with the peaceful atmosphere at home, everything went downhill.

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Do you have any idea how much a skinned knee really hurts?

One playground misunderstanding that took me a long time to shake off

Don’t cry! You’re okay! You’re just fine!
A dark-haired little girl, about 4, wearing a pink kitten hoodie and sitting on the bench at the playground. Crying. Really going at it. One might even say wailing like a banshee.

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When they growl: “You mean, mean mommy! I don’t like you!”

Even the most beloved parent can get caught off guard. But it’s not the end of the world. See how Bara Hamblin handled it.

One particular evening I needed to get my boys to bed by a certain time. I went into it full of optimism, feeling sure we’d be able to agree with each other without a struggle. Usually it goes off without a hitch.

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5 tips for potty training without the stress

We’ve collected stories and helpful tips for you from Unparenting parents who managed to hit the target. The target being the potty, of course :)

We’ve got one at home, too. Had it almost a year now. It’s a lovely sky-blue with two little paws on the bottom. You know, to show the right way to sit on it. A perfectly oval, shiny, never-been-used potty.

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Puberty starts in the cradle... too bad I didn’t realize that earlier

An open letter to mamas of littles. The one I wish I had read before my little one was born.

The evening is shaping up perfectly for a bit of me-time. They’re asleep. I take one last look at my two sleeping princesses before I switch off the nightlight. They’ve both kicked off their covers. Today was a real scorcher.

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When children live in their own world

Find out what to do when children live in their own world and don’t do what you say, and learn about two types of communication that get through to young children.

Sometimes it seems like she can’t even hear me. She lives in her own world, and nothing can make her do something she doesn’t want to do. I’ve already told her. I repeat it several times, and she still doesn’t do what I say. I feel like she doesn’t care.

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How to phase out the pacifier without tears?

Children know how to get there. Keep reading to find out what toddlers and preschoolers would tell you on a discussion board if they just had the chance. :)

“Aren’t you a little too old for a pacifier? Should I call you a baby?”

“If you don’t take that pacifier away, you’ll ruin their teeth!”

“The kids at school will make fun of you, just you wait...”
All the strangers, neighbors and extended family surely mean well. They want to help. But the parent is thinking – OUCH!

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Did you say temper tantrums? Silence took care of them for us

Though the only one being quiet was mama

“Good girls don’t throw tantrums.”
“Boys don’t cry.”
“Stop acting out. You’re a big girl now.”
“Oh, come on! It’s not the end of the world.”
“It’s okay, you’re fine.”

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