Is your little one often in tears, and you don’t know what to do?Does it break your heart just to listen? And sometimes drive you right up the wall?
At times like that, you might feel helpless or wish you could handle things without a fuss, but it just doesn’t work. You might find your own temper running high. Angry at the screaming child who will not be moved and angry at yourself, too, for not being able to handle the situation. Especially if you’re outside when it happens and everybody is staring. And you might be worrying deep down that your little one is turning into a spoiled brat?
You’ve probably tried these things:
Consoling. Distracting. Offering something that might help: a hug, teddy bear, snack. Talking nicely: “Wipe your eyes and no more tears, okay?” Talking strictly: “All right, that’s enough. Don’t try that on me.” But nothing seems to work and the waterworks just won’t stop?
If your little one is still a baby, are you pacing the room endlessly, shushing and comforting until you’re blue in the face, feeling like a bad parent the whole time because you can’t stop the crying?
How the Unparenting course can help:
We’ll teach you a simple way to communicate with your little one to avoid most tearful scenes. We’ll talk about how to start from day one and ‘hear’ what your little one is telling you by crying. You’ll feel the joy of truly understanding your child.
You’ll learn how to handle tears in minor situations and major ones. You’ll find out what to do to keep things from dragging on for hours when your little one is inconsolable. And you’ll be certain they aren’t manipulating you with their tears just to get what they want.
With the information and experience in the course, you will also teach your child how to handle tears in a healthy way, not getting too wound up but also not suppressing their tears. Plus you’ll help them grow up to be a healthy, self-confident adult who can manage their own emotions.
We’ll talk about what to do when your baby is crying because they don’t like something (like nose blowing or taking medicine). You’ll learn how to help your baby stop being afraid and start cooperating with you instead of struggling against you. You will feel more confident in your ability to handle things as they come up, without tears.
We’ll talk about what to do when your little one is crying in order to get their own way or because you said no to something. You’ll learn how to stand firm and not give in. And how to set healthy boundaries your child will respect without resorting to tears and arguments.
If things haven’t been going that well so far and you feel like you’ve failed somewhere along the way, take heart.
Many parents start the course with those exact same feelings: afraid they may have messed things up permanently with their little one. But they turn it around. We can help you do a reset and restart, and soon you’ll feel like a whole new parent. One who knows how to communicate with their children.
How parents from the Unparenting course have handled crying:
I’m so happy. My 4-year-old daughter used to scream or cry anytime she wanted something, but that’s all gone now. She just says what she needs and how she needs it. She looks for solutions and makes suggestions.
Just the idea that the tears will pass is amazing! That’s probably one of the ways Unparenting has helped me the most. My 4-year-old is both incredibly emotional and a huge introvert, and it used to be that every big breakdown threw me off and ruined my mood. I even thought I couldn’t love her if she acted like that (and I’m afraid I said as much to her when she was just 2!).
Unparenting helped me understand that all this is just how she’s feeling in the moment, her way of telling me or others around her something. It’s not some definitive expression of a negative relationship to me or anyone else. In five minutes it’ll be over, and if we work things out together, nobody will even remember it later (but when I make a scene as well, it really does ruin the whole day and damage our relationship in the future).
I tried Unparenting out straightaway with riding in the car. I explained to my 3 ½ -month-old son that it makes me nervous when he cries while I’m driving, because I can’t help him and can’t focus on driving either. I asked if he could help me out.
He only cried a couple of times during the 40-minute long trip, and I could see how hard he was trying. It almost brought tears to my eyes. You have to understand that up till then, all our car trips had been nonstop crying the whole time.
The trip home went even better. He managed to fall asleep. That’s our experience in three days of Unparenting. I’m a lot calmer and more confident as the mama of my amazing little boy.
Unparenting opened up my eyes and my heart, and I’m so proud of my daughter. When I have to go, she doesn’t cry but says “bye-bye,” shuts the door, and runs to Grandma. Incredible. 😍
I’m so grateful for Unparenting. Our first daughter cried a lot as a baby. I discovered Unparenting when she was 3 months old and did the course when she was about a year old. We’re doing great now — of course things don’t always go perfectly, but our new baby is totally different, although I’m trying to pay more attention to my daughter, so I feel like I don’t have as much time for him. I’ve been sticking to the “be there for them and talk to them” rule, and it’s been going great from day one. He hardly cries, and I feel like it’s mainly when I don’t keep my word. It’s amazing. :)
To tell the truth, the baby was crying during the workshop itself. I changed my mindset from “make it stop” to being more of a partner. I shared how I was feeling and asked my 1-month-old second baby to help me out.
He gave me this mysterious smile, and I was in total shock, just watching him and seeing how perfectly he showed me what he needed. He called me over a few more times and showed me what he needed, not crying but just grizzling a bit. Unparenting really knows their stuff. Thank you!